When my eldest Zoe was one year old, I have decided not to spank him as a form of discipline. But now that he is 3 years old, and slowly learning disobedience, it breaks my heart that I had to spank him. There have been various issues about spanking, now it’s up to you parents whether or not to enforce spanking to your kids.
When I was a child, I was spanked. That was how our parents discipline us. When I get spanked, I instantly knew I did something wrong without even hearing an explanation.
I have read parenting tips that viewed spanking positively to which explaining why he is spanked is very important. For me, it takes courage to spank my boys; it hurts me but I had to. But when I read about biblical spanking, I had some sort of consolation. The bible says in Proverbs 22:15 “foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will remove it far from him” To some parents, spanking might be a form of abuse. As I have said before, I was spanked when I was a child, but I never viewed it as an abuse. I was afraid to be spank, that’s why I was trying my best to obey my parents. This proves that spanking works. Yes it is, as long as it’s done in a proper way.
I have been extra careful when spanking my boys. I have learned when to and not to spank them. Some of it I acquired through listening to parenting programs over a radio station, some through the generosity of super mommy blogger friends who are not greedy in sharing their experience and other’s through parenting books.
Here are few things you should remember about spanking.
Set Rules. Have clear rules, this will serve as their guide. Whenever these rules are disobeyed, spank.
Spank for willful disobedience. A pastor once said, spank for mistake of the heart and not mistake of the mind. Willful disobedience comes from the heart. Don’t spank if your child forgets to keep his toys, only when he refuses and yells spank right away.
Don’t spank out of emotion. Control your anger before spanking a child.
Do not spank in public. Do not embarrass your child. Bring him in a private room when spanking.
Do it in love. After a spank, explain why are you doing it. Affirm him with your love and that you are teaching him obedience.
Discipline is not an overnight thing. It’s a procedure. And when you feel like your child is not responding with all the spanking, turn to God. Let him work on your child’s heart. Remember parents, we cannot do this alone, there are things that we cannot change as parents but once we trust God, everything is possible. Never cease praying for your children.
Let me leave you with this verse, Proverbs 19:18 says, “Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise you will ruin their lives..”