Lets transport back to the time when we were kids and your dad gave you a piggy back ride so you can see a parade or a performance on the stage because you are not so tall for you to see that. I guess most of us had that piece of childhood memory.
On the other hand, our son Zian was not watching a parade or a performance, he simply want a piggy back ride while we are heading home from Zoe’s school.
The picture caught me once again after browsing my stack image on my phone. This is just a cool father and son bonding that’s why it lands on this page.
I saw Zoe dancing while singing ohhh…ohhh…ohhh (in the tune of lady gaga’s roar). I asked him who taught him and he replied it’s teacher Joy. I remember there was a letter from their school informing parents about the upcoming foundation week. So I figured it might be a presentation for that said event. I went searching for the song on youtube and played it and he was smiling upon hearing the song so I asked him to dance for me. After that, he has been practicing at home almost every night.
And then the big day came. I remember how excited he was, he even reminded me to not go to work because I’ll be going with him to the school to watch him perform. I must say that the little man has infused a great on me excitement as well.
Excited as we are, we went to the school on the big day. I can still remember his smiles wearing his blue shirt & white short uniform with high knee socks and poms poms. But…but…but the moment we arrived at the school his mood changes. He started frowning and clinging to me. He refused to join his classmates as they cue for their presentation. I tried convincing him, but he resisted so I bribed him with his favorite toy (he is a big fan of thomas & friend).Thankfully he did, but with a fuss.
I thought it’s going to be fun and he’s going make the moves, but when the music was played, he was just standing still while looking at me as I cover the dance number. A few minutes later, while his classmates are moving in time to the music, he dropped his poms poms. I stepped back from the audience hoping he will eventually dance, but he bawls in tears.
This is not the first time that he misbehaves in big events. And as a parent, I get a little bit upset about his behavior. Of course every parent would want to see their children full of confidence. I have been wondering what could be the root cause of this behavior. Perhaps, he is having a hard time coping with the pressure of performing in a big crowd. I don’t know, but I still have to figure out why he is acting like that during big events.
I guess it’s too early to say that my child has stage fright, as much as possible I don’t want to infuse my mind of that thought but really, why do some children has stage fright? How do you handle it?
The little man saw a notepad on my desk while we were reviewing for their final exam. Then he asked me to stop for a while as he has something to write for me. While he requested me to spell the word he writes it on the notepad…
And I got my first sweet note from my preschooler…He was baffled as to why the word “mommy” ends with “Y” and so I gave him an “I” instead…
Our youngest Zian is naturally cheerful. He made us laugh most of the time. But, you’ll hear him shrieked whenever his brother took his favorite toy, burst into tears whenever I said no, and sulk whenever I scold him. Sometimes we will just see his tears rolling on his cheeks just because someone did not pay attention to him. There was even a time that he refused to sleep with me after scolding & spanking him. . He’s way too sensitive and obviously, I’m a bit lost on how to handle my son’s emotions.
Yesterday, he shrieked when I refused to let him drink a chocolate drink early in the morning. I let him feel his emotion for a while, after all I have chores to finish. And in a situation like this, I figured out that the more I try to talk him out of his feeling, the more that he will hold on to that feeling. So let it be for a while…
After sulking for a few minutes, he approached me and ask for a bottle of milk instead. At this time he was back to his cheerful self. Then it was my moment to explain what I did. I don’t really know if he understands my point, but all the while, while I’m speaking he was paying attention.
Parenting highly sensitive kids can be exhausting. Sometimes I feel like locking up inside my room and leave them jungled. But that’s not a good idea. As parents we have to train our children in the way they should go. If you have the same challenge, perhaps the following steps might help you, it works with my kids.
Time Out. Give him space for him to feel that overwhelming emotion. Don’t try to take him out from that emotion quickly as it might aggravate the situation. They have the tendency to get even more upset. Let them have some space for a while.
Empathize. This is our way of telling them that we’re in this together. I guess it is significant to them to know that they have someone on their side. And as you empathize, suggests ways on how you both can solve the problem or try to engage him in a new activity.
Affirm. When time out is over, I normally tell my kids the reason why I’m imposing such rule. Then I end by telling them that I want them to be good because I love them. Affirmation as Dr. Richard Nicastro put it is a relationship glue that helps two people create a deeper bond. Let him know that he is unique and he is loved.
For the past few weeks, we have been preparing for our “big move” to Dubai to be with my husband. We have been praying for our family to be together and we are glad that God is slowly showing us a preview to soon be answered prayer.
Part of this preparation is hunting for a preschool for our eldest Zoe. I have been thankful that I have access to internet since most schools in the UAE has its website. Also, KHDA’s (Knowledge & Human Dev’t Authority) 2014 school ranking is really of big help. As expected, tuition fees are expensive and I didn’t expect that school registration starts very early.
Currently, I have been on a virtual tour to some school with in our budget.
United International Private School – This was our first choice since this school offers Philippine Curriculum. Hubby visited the school only to find out that there is a long waiting list for registration. It’s under “acceptable” ranking on KHDA and serves mostly Filipino Families.
The Winsmenster School – Al Ghusais – is our second choice. Under “acceptable” ranking on KHDA and following a UK curriculum. The tuition fee for Foundation Stage is DHS 5,651 (SY 2014-2015). I am not sure if books & uniform is already covered, but school service is not included. This is so far the cheapest Gems school that offers UK
curriculum, and we’re sad knowing that registration is also close.
Gems Winchester – Oud Metha – also under “acceptable” ranking and UK curriculum. The Tuition fee is DHS 9,540 (SY 2014-15). School service fee is not included. A little bit hesitant with this school due to its location.
Apple International School – Al Ghusais – I have been reading negative reviews about this school. Though I have friends who are satisfied with the quality of education they offer. Since it’s only a few minutes drive from our soon to be crib, this school is in our list. Ranks “acceptable”and also following UK curriculum. Tuition fee ranges from DHS 5,963 to 10,951.
Pristine Private School – Al nahda – So far the closest to our place. Under “good” ranking on KHDA and following UK curriculum, so we are making this our first choice for now. Plus, I found a fellow mom blogger over the net who was happy with her son development with PPS. Tuition fee for FS1 is 8,469 and FS2 is 8,994.
Scouting for inexpensive but good quality school in UAE can be a muddle task. If you have toddlers going to school for the first time, make sure you scout early as school registrations filled up fast.
At this time, I hardly get the kids to pray before sleeping and so, I thought of doing memory verses with our eldest Zoe as another way of introducing God to our little ones. I was glad he was okay with it, except that I have to bribe him with a prize in order for him to properly recite the verse.
We started with 4-6 sentences verses to make it light for him. I picked out Psalm 145:9 The Lord is good to all! as his first memory verse. Our youngest Zian, who is only 2 years old also tried to memorize the verse in his own little “language”.
God by nature is good and the evidence of his goodness is evident in His creation and triumphs. And although we are not worthy of his goodness, He made it available for us regardless of our status in life. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
Had I not checked Zoe’s assignment notebook “early” today I would not know that it was distribution of their grades today from 8:00-10:00AM. Good thing his school is just 10 minutes walk away from our place.
And here comes the surprise!
Our son ranked third in the whole nursery level. I didn’t expect that he would get the third spot since he only ranked seventh in the first quarter. That seventh place challenged me to give more time on Zoe’s studies so he could maintain his grades. But being a working mom, I hardly get a time to teach him, only during periodical exam. And so I am very happy and proud of this achievement. For despite my shortcoming, he improved and got the third spot. Thank you to my sister Aina and our yayabel ate mariet for helping Zoe with his assignment when I wasn’t able. Above all I am thanking God for blessing our son Zoe with intelligence.
Even before we enrolled him at school, I have noticed my son’s interest in studying. But children are children. We normally have grumbling moment during study time at home that will eventually lead to unfinished assignments. At school, separation anxiety kicks off two weeks after the start of classes. And I get frustrated when he felt that same anxiety during his third month in school.
Though he would go home with stars sometimes, I never expected that Zoe will be one of the top 10 students of nursery level. He ranked seventh for the whole nursery level and fourth in their class. While it is normal to feel proud as parent, his achievement became a challenge for me to improve my way of motivation and guidance so he learns to love studying.
This is really a good start for our little man. I am not expecting too much from him this early but I certainly hope for his best. Praying for continues guidance from the omniscient God Jesus Christ.
Our son Zoe is studying at a Chinese school. Our family has no trace of Chinese blood, it’s just that this school happened to be so close to our place maybe around 5-10 minutes walk. That’s the very reason why we chose to send him to that school.
Before enrolling, I thought of how am I gonna teach him about Chinese subject since I know nothing about Chinese language. I’ve asked friends whose kids are also going to Chinese schools and they’re common answers are “hindi ko sya tinuturuan. Ako ang tinuturuan nya.” Well, that’s true, that thing also happened to me. My son was teaching me how to count in Chinese and I don’t want that to happen always.
Well I don’t have to fret because with our technology today, you can find almost everything over the net you just have to be resourceful. Thank God YouTube.com is there to help me out. I’m glad there are lots of basic Chinese language tutorial available in youtube so my son and I has an online Chinese guru and we are learning together. This is so far the most accessible resource for us.
Currently he knew few Chinese words and recently been practicing to write Chinese character.
And so here comes the first day of school for the little man. Officially a nursery student at 3 and 6 months old.
A week before the classes start he knew that he’s going to school in a few days. I didn’t know if he got a glimpse of what school is, but we’re telling him that he’s gonna play, learn to read and write and meet new friends. He’s been to our church’s Sunday school so I guess he will have a little idea about what school is.
He was not the only one excited for this milestone but mom and dad and the little bro were as excited as him. Look at Zian, he’s ready to go as well with his stuff.
They were 10 student in the class, and on the first day, we get to sit-in as there were parents orientation. The little man was a bit shy, the little bro was even more excited upon entering the room. Look at them, they’re growing to be partners in crime.
He got a little bored during the orientation, he wanted to sleep, wants to go home and later on peed and pooped. But when the teacher ask them to color something he got back into good frame.
And then later, the gave the students specially the new ones a warm welcome. They have invited the famous bee in the town, Jolibee as they kick off school year 2014-2015.