Proverbs 31:10-30

10 Who can find a wife of noble character?
For her value is far more than rubies.
11 The heart of her husband has confidence in her,
and he has no lack of gain.
12 She brings him good and not evil
all the days of her life.
13 She obtains wool and flax,
and she is pleased to work with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She also gets up while it is still night,
and provides food for her household and a portion to her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
from her own income she plants a vineyard.
17 She begins her work vigorously,
and she strengthens her arms.
18 She knows that her merchandise is good,
and her lamp does not go out in the night.
19 Her hands take hold of the distaff,
and her hands grasp the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
and reaches out her hand to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
for all of her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes for herself coverlets;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is well-known in the city gate
when he sits with the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and honor,
and she can laugh at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and loving instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed,
her husband also praises her:
29 “Many daughters have done valiantly,
but you surpass them all!”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting,
but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised.

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Is my boy stage fright?

I saw Zoe dancing while singing ohhh…ohhh…ohhh (in the tune of lady gaga’s roar). I asked him who taught him and he replied it’s teacher Joy. I remember there was a letter from their school informing parents about the upcoming foundation week. So I figured it might be a presentation for that said event. I went searching for the song on youtube and played it and he was smiling upon hearing the song so I asked him to dance for me. After that, he has been practicing at home almost every night.

And then the big day came. I remember how excited he was, he even reminded me to not go to work because I’ll be going with him to the school to watch him perform. I must say that the little man has infused a great on me excitement as well.

Excited as we are, we went to the school on the big day. I can still remember his smiles wearing his blue shirt & white short uniform with high knee socks and poms poms. But…but…but the moment we arrived at the school his mood changes. He started frowning and clinging to me. He refused to join his classmates as they cue for their presentation. I tried convincing him, but he resisted so I bribed him with his favorite toy (he is a big fan of thomas & friend).Thankfully he did, but with a fuss.

I thought it’s going to be fun and he’s going make the moves, but when the music was played, he was just standing still while looking at me as I cover the dance number. A few minutes later, while his classmates are moving in time to the music, he dropped his poms poms. I stepped back from the audience hoping he will eventually dance, but he bawls in tears.

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This is not the first time that he misbehaves in big events. And as a parent, I get a little bit upset about his behavior. Of course every parent would want to see their children full of confidence.  I have been wondering what could be the root cause of this behavior. Perhaps, he is having a hard time coping with the pressure of performing in a big crowd. I don’t know, but I still have to figure out why he is acting like that during big events.

I guess it’s too early to say that my child has stage fright, as much as possible I don’t want to infuse my mind of that thought but really, why do some children has stage fright? How do you handle it?

I Got Note

The little man saw a notepad on my desk while we were reviewing for their final exam. Then he asked me to stop for a while as he has something to write for me. While he requested me to spell the word he writes it on the notepad…

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And I got my first sweet note from my preschooler…He was baffled as to why the word “mommy” ends with “Y” and so I gave him an “I” instead…

Parenting A Sensitive Toddler

Our youngest Zian is naturally cheerful. He made us laugh most of the time. But, you’ll hear him shrieked whenever his brother took his favorite toy, burst into tears whenever I said no, and sulk whenever I scold him. Sometimes we will just see his tears rolling on his cheeks just because someone did not pay attention to him. There was even a time that he refused to sleep with me after scolding & spanking him. . He’s way too sensitive and obviously, I’m a bit lost on how to handle my son’s emotions.

Yesterday, he shrieked when I refused to let him drink a chocolate drink early in the morning. I let him feel his emotion for a while, after all I have chores to finish. And in a situation like this, I figured out that the more I try to talk him out of his feeling, the more that he will hold on to that feeling. So let it be for a while…

After sulking for a few minutes, he approached me and ask for a bottle of milk instead. At this time he was back to his cheerful self. Then it was my moment to explain what I did. I don’t really know if he understands my point, but all the while, while I’m speaking he was paying attention.

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Parenting highly sensitive kids can be exhausting. Sometimes I feel like locking up inside my room and leave them jungled. But that’s not a good idea. As parents we have to train our children in the way they should go. If you have the same challenge, perhaps the following steps might help you, it works with my kids.

Time Out. Give him space for him to feel that overwhelming emotion. Don’t try to take him out from that emotion quickly as it might aggravate the situation. They have the tendency to get even more upset. Let them have some space for a while.

Empathize. This is our way of telling them that we’re in this together. I guess it is significant to them to know that they have someone on their side. And as you empathize, suggests ways on how you both can solve the problem or try to engage him in a new activity.

Affirm. When time out is over, I normally tell my kids the reason why I’m imposing such rule. Then I end by telling them  that I want them to be good because I love them. Affirmation as Dr. Richard Nicastro put it is a relationship glue that helps two people create a deeper bond. Let him know that he is unique and he is loved.

Women’s free ride on Women’s Day

I was in LRT line 1 on my way home after visiting a wake. I was about to purchase my ticket when I heard the security guard shouting “mga babae wag ng bumili ng ticket”. Then I saw employees entrance gate open & women are entering the station through it. While passing through, I asked the guard why is this so? He replied it’s women’s day and then few minutes after entering the platform, announcement were made. It’s International Women’s week and the LRT management were celebrating it by giving a free ride to all women from 5:00-7:00pm in both Lines 1 & 2. Wow that’s so generous. I seldom get a free ride from a public transport. I can see smiles through many women’s faces and mine as well. Thank you for the free ride and Happy Women’s Week to all ladies!

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Thank you for the free ride!

UAE School Hunting

For the past few weeks, we have been preparing for our “big move” to Dubai to be with my husband. We have been praying for our family to be together and we are glad that God is slowly showing us a preview to soon be answered prayer.

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Part of this preparation is hunting for a preschool for our eldest Zoe. I have been thankful that I have access to internet since most schools in the UAE has its website. Also, KHDA’s (Knowledge & Human Dev’t Authority) 2014 school ranking is really of big help. As expected, tuition fees are expensive and I didn’t expect that school registration starts very early.

Currently, I have been on a virtual tour to some school with in our budget.

United International Private School – This was our first choice since this school offers Philippine Curriculum. Hubby visited the school only to find out that there is a long waiting list for registration. It’s under “acceptable” ranking on KHDA and serves mostly Filipino Families.

The Winsmenster School – Al Ghusais – is our second choice. Under “acceptable” ranking on KHDA and following a UK curriculum. The tuition fee for Foundation Stage is DHS 5,651 (SY 2014-2015). I am not sure if books & uniform is already covered, but school service is not included. This is so far the cheapest Gems school that offers UK
curriculum, and we’re sad knowing that registration is also close.

Gems Winchester – Oud Metha – also under “acceptable” ranking and UK curriculum. The Tuition fee is DHS 9,540 (SY 2014-15). School service fee is not included. A little bit hesitant with this school due to its location.

Apple International School – Al Ghusais – I have been reading negative reviews about this school. Though I have friends who are satisfied with the quality of education they offer. Since it’s only a few minutes drive from our soon to be crib, this school is in our list. Ranks “acceptable”and also following UK curriculum. Tuition fee ranges from DHS 5,963 to 10,951.

Pristine Private School – Al nahda – So far the closest to our place. Under “good” ranking on KHDA and following UK curriculum, so we are making this our first choice for now. Plus, I found a fellow mom blogger over the net who was happy with her son development with PPS. Tuition fee for FS1 is 8,469 and FS2 is 8,994.

Scouting for inexpensive but good quality school in UAE can be a muddle task. If you have toddlers going to school for the first time, make sure you scout early as school registrations filled up fast.

Am I A Monster Mom?

Watching our children growing is undeniably one of the best thing parents loves to do. Having two toddlers at home, seeing the happy moments up to their melt downs, are both heartwarming and disheartening.

Over the time I have been filled with both heartwarming and disheartening moments from our two boys. How I wish it could only be heartwarming moments, but you know, disheartening moments are inevitable and it often happens in our house now but not for a long time as I remember. Rumblings, fighting up to melt down, has been a common scenario. And so, I thought that our parenting style should be changed.

Early in my parenting journey, I don’t want to enforce spanking. I was the type of mom, who lose heart when spanking. But with the negative behavior they’re currently showing I felt the need to discipline them. I was able to get hold a copy of a parenting video held in our church. It has taught me a lot about parenting. One thing that I noted, which our pastor shared, was that spanking as a way of discipline is biblical.

Proverbs 13;24 “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.”

This helped me to have courage in enforcing spanking to my children. In that video it also teaches parents when & how to spank. I followed their teaching, I have set rules when to spank. My children knew that they’ll get spanked whenever they disobeyed and disrespect anyone in the house. Hitting, pinching and yelling is also a no no…I also explain to them why they’re being spanked once their bawling subside. One important rule to remember, is never ever spank in public. Do not embarrass them in public. I bring them to a private room whenever I have to spank.

And how it impacts the kids? I saw them improve and they have been watchful about their behavior during the first three months of rule implementation. But as time goes, it seems that they’re not afraid of spanking anymore especially our youngest Zian. So I have to make spanking a little harder for them to feel the pain, but I make sure it won’t break their skin. And because of that I was then labeled by my eldest as “monster mom”….Oh…and it hit me. It may be painful for them for now but, Hebrews 12:11 says For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

I maybe a monster mom to them, but the bible says it clearly, discipline maybe painful now but, it bears a good fruit. I can sometimes be a monster mom but, I am praying to be more and more patient  and and avoid spanking. And also encouraging the boys to always be good to each other so we can avoid spanking.

Proverbs 25:15 “With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone.” 

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I am not a perfect mom, but I am trying to give my best is parenting my kids. Proverbs 22:6  Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

The Lord is Good

At this time, I hardly get the kids to pray before sleeping and so, I thought of doing memory verses with our eldest Zoe as another way of introducing God to our little ones. I was glad he was okay with it, except that I have to bribe him with a prize in order for him to properly recite the verse.

We started with 4-6 sentences verses to make it light for him. I picked out Psalm 145:9 The Lord is good to all! as his first memory verse. Our youngest Zian, who is only 2 years old also tried to memorize the verse in his own little “language”.

God by nature is good and the evidence of his goodness is evident in His creation and triumphs. And although we are not worthy of his goodness, He made it available for us regardless of our status in life. James 1:17 says, “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”

Our thoughts shapes us….

I have been on the battle field for the past few months; Battling negative thoughts, fears and anxiety. The feeling that I am not well has gotten my nerves. And as you know super moms like me need not be sick. Having these thoughts, it magnify my biggest fear of leaving the kids “forever”.  I was only eight years old when my mother joined our creator and it was this chapter of my life that I don’t want my kids to experience.

And so the enemy found out my weakness and it is there where he tried to crash me. The devil is trying to make me believe that something is wrong with me. I have been “doctor hopping” for the past 2 months, I have been to pulmonologist, cardiologist, neurologist, endocrinologist, ophthalmologist and tmj specialist. Of all these visits, I thank God that most of my lab tests were normal except for the pulmonary function test that showed a mild obstruction ventilator defect, which according to the doctor is a mild asthma. And that explains my SOB episodes. Also, I found out that my sugar and uric acid are a little over the border line. EMJ and ECG went normal and the rest of my blood chem. Therefore, there’s nothing serious going on my body, it was only the negative thoughts; the lies that the enemy is feeding me that keeps me miserable for a few days. There was one night that I felt like my head will burst because  it was loaded with negative thoughts. I tried to sleep just to give my mind a rest, but it just don’t let me. Until I cried out in prayer and surrender to God because in all honesty I cannot bear it anymore. I asked Him to take away all the negative thoughts, fears and anxiety. There I felt comfort and seems I have unloaded the heavy load inside my mind. Plus a sensible discussion over the phone with my OFW hubby and I felt better.

1 Peter 5:6-8 says Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. I am holding to this promise, and I believe that my God, Lord Jesus is mighty and powerful and will deliver me from negativity. And as He works on me, I decided to stay positive and overload my mind with positive thought coz as Joyce Meyer once said, power thought shapes our life. I thank you Lord!

Celebrate Mother’s Day at Solaire: Choose from discounted room packages and dinner set menu

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Mothers know best. But this time, Solaire has thought of the best for the special women in our lives. From the special discounted rates in the ultimate family staycation to the exquisite set menus in our fine dining establishments, we’ve made sure that this will be one unforgettable Mother’s Day.

Bring the entire family this ‘Mother’s Day weekend’ and stay in one of our luxurious suites with discounted rates. Under the Summer Family Getaway packages, our rooms go as low as PhP6,000++ for Deluxe Room Cityview and PhP7,000++ for the Deluxe Room Bayview. The special rates are also available in Grand Deluxe Cityview (PhP8,000++), Grand Deluxe Bayview (PhP9,000++) and 2-Bay Suite (PhP12,000).

Our amazing staycation packages come with an impeccable buffet breakfast for two adults and two kids age 6 years and below. For kids who are 7 to 12 years old, we offer a 50% dining discount. Your stay also includes a free use of the swimming pool and the fitness center. To test your luck, the package comes with PhP500 worth of gaming credits.

If you opt to celebrate mom’s special day with a lavish dinner, we have prepared delectable set menus in Fresh, Yakumi, Finestra, Red Lantern and Strip. Everyone in the family can enjoy our mini pizza creation of the day (Roasted Branzino in potato crust, Versuvio tomatoes, white wine and Gamberoni), Pasta Carbonara in rich and creamy sauce with pancetta bacon, Limon Cello lemon and Chicken Parmigiano at our Italian restaurant Finestra.

For the lovers of Japanese cuisine, meanwhile, we offer a special menu that includes Gyuniku Tataki (Seared beef strip loin with onion dressing and micro herbs), Yakumi Sushi and sashimi sampler, Lobster mini soup, Ebi tempura, Chilean Seabass teriyaki and Steamed Japanese style egg custard with foie gras.

Red Lantern also offers a sumptuous set menu for those who prefer Chinese dishes. The family can feast on Hand rolled Beijing duck, Pumpkin soup with seafood and white fungus, Deep fried crispy shrimps with sweet mayonnaise, Wok fried prime beef black pepper sauce, Steamed sliced fish with Tofu in black bean sauce, the seasons best vegetables with oyster sauce, and Braised noodles with spring onions and ginger sesame oil.

Steak house Strip also offers a Mother’s Day menu consisting of Green Pea sphere and crisp ham; Tomato salad dried olive oil and goat’s cheese; Foie gras crumble mousse with candied fruit and nut; Seared tuna blood orange sponge, watermelon and labuyo chili crust; Pork belly beer braised and tomato relish; Smoked Angus beef and Caramel Sand torch banana.

All of our set menus are priced at PhP1,900 and all come with the Solaire Mother’s Day creation, the Caramel cheesecake with red berries and white chocolate silk. If you want to go all –out however, our buffet outlet Fresh is ready with Lechon (Charcoal grilled suckling pig), Roasted prime rib of ‘Gold Label’ prime beef, Brioche baked whole salmon Coulibiac, seafood delights and a long list of desserts which include tarts, cupcakes, cookies, parfaits, doughnuts, puddings and cakes.

May it be the ultimate staycation or a gastronomic adventure in one of our first-class restaurants, Mother’s Day at Solaire is definitely a great bonding opportunity for the entire family.

For reservations, call 888 8888 or log on to www.solaireresort.com for more details.